Articles Posted in Child Custody And Visitation

Many partners divorce with children having come of the marriage. A divorce can be a confusing and emotionally detrimental experience for children, especially when the issue of custody comes into play. Let’s examine five ways you can help your child cope with divorce, and avoid causing them unnecessary harm.

1. Encourage Regular Communication

It is important to communicate with your child on a regular basis. Take a few minutes out of your day when your child comes home from school to focus specifically on them. Dinner can wait, work can wait. Your priority is making sure your child knows that you are not only approachable, but available in their times of need.

2. Keep Things Amicable

Few things are more emotionally taxing to a child than being forced to side with one parent over the other. In fact, studies suggest that animosity between parents causes children to suffer the most emotional or psychological damage during a divorce. Stay in regular contact with your ex and meet with them publicly so both of you avoid displaying animosity toward one another in front of your child. The more civil you both are, the less damage you will inflict on your child’s emotional foundation. Continue Reading →

New Jersey law requires that parents of children who are divorced or separated from the other parent receive permission before removing a child from the state. The reason for the law is that one parent removing a child from the state often makes it difficult for the other parent to spend time with the child. The state is charged with making decisions in the best interest of the child, and it finds that parenting time with both parents in usually in the child’s best interest.

Non-Custodial Parent Consents

New Jersey law depends on whether the parent wishing to move the child is the custodial or non-custodial parent. A non-custodial parent may move out of the state, without the child, without permission. The custodial parent, however, must obtain permission to move. If the other parent consents to the move, the child can be removed from the state without going through a legal proceeding, though it can be helpful to have written permission signed by each parent.

Court Order Required

If, on the other hand, the other parent does not give permission for the child to move out of state, the parent requesting to move will need to go to the court for permission. In order to obtain a court order permitting a child to leave New Jersey, the custodial parent must show a good faith reason for the move and show that the move will not be against the best interest of the child. Continue Reading →

When parents decide to change their child’s last name and are in agreement, the process of the name change is quite simple. That is not the topic of this blog. Rather, the topic is what to do and what happens when the parents cannot come to agreement and the court makes the ultimate decision on your child’s last name.

New Jersey Courts apply a standard set of factors to name change cases regardless of whether or not the parties were ever married. In addition to those factors, the court applies additional standards if the parties never were and are not now married, giving preference to the name choice of the parent with whom the child primarily resides.

IN ALL CASES, NEW JERSEY COURTS APPLY THE FOLLOWING FACTORS

• How long has the child used his or her current surname.
• The child’s identification as a family member or as part of a family unit;
• Whether the child will experience any potential anxiety, embarrassment or discomfort if the child and custodial parent have different surnames. This is only considered for the parent given a presumption of surname. See below for details on presumption;
• The child’s preference, in the event he or she is old enough to express a preference;
• The court’s application of any additional factors it chooses to consider.

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Questions often arise upon divorce regarding whether having a new significant other in the presence of the child is appropriate. Over the past four decades New Jersey courts have evolved on this issue. The leading cases are discussed below.

DeVita

DeVita is a 1976 New Jersey case that discusses the contact that a child may have with a parent’s new significant other.In DeVita, a father appealed his divorce judgment that prevented him from having a female companion stay overnight in the same home as his children when they visited him. The evidence presented showed that the two adults slept in separate bedrooms with their respective children and that nothing improper occurred during the overnight visit. Still, the court found that the restriction on overnight companions was enforceable in this case, based on the “moral welfare” of the children possibly being compromised. Continue Reading →