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New Jersey Laws Against Discrimination (LAD) do not limit protection of employees to the mere marital status of being single or married, but also protect employees from discrimination based upon other marital statuses. The June, 2016 Supreme Court of New Jersey decision in Smith v. Millville Rescue Squad took the opportunity presented in the case to identify and implement the legislative intent of the LAD by defining the scope and boundaries of the Act insofar as the term “marital status,” not previously defined in the Act or in case law.

The Court held that “marital status” was inclusive of “employees who have declared that they will marry, have separated from their spouse, have initiated divorce proceedings or have obtained a divorce. Thus, any employee in any of these enumerated statuses, as well as single and married, are afforded protection against discrimination in employment..

The facts reported in the case are as follows: Robert Smith was a certified EMT and paramedic in the employ of Millville Rescue Squad (MRS) for 17 years. He was terminated in February, 2006 from the position of Director of Operations. His superior, CEO of MRS, John Redden, was aco-defendant in the case. Mr. Smith’s wife, mother-in-law and her two sisters were also employed by MRS in various positions. Continue Reading →

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A divorce causes drastic changes in your life because you are suddenly alone. You may have children, friends, and other family members who love and encourage you, but it is not the same as it is with a spouse. Morning coffee becomes just a routine, you watch movies with a bowl of ice cream, and those early morning conversations are now between you and the cat. Things are different, and loneliness can become commonplace. The first year is the hardest because it is a new experience.

Do You Really Miss Your Ex?

Most people miss the experiences they had with their former spouse. When you have been part of a relationship for years, it is difficult when it ends. Perhaps you went out for dinner and a movie twice a month, bowled with friends, enjoyed camping, solved crossword puzzles over coffee, and went for evening walks. The activities you shared are what you miss; if you and your spouse were compatible, you would not have divorced. Remember, if you enjoyed going out to dinner and a movie when you were married, you will still enjoy the experience with friends. Everything you did with your former spouse is still fun for you to do with friends, a date, or by yourself. If you feel lonely at night, it is because you have been used to having another person to talk to or watch a television show with. Invite a friend over or consider getting a roommate.

Holidays And Special Occasions

There are some days when loneliness hits you harder. You and your spouse may have created your own traditions for birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays. You thought they would last a lifetime, but they no longer matter. Start new traditions for every day that is important to you. Don’t allow yourself to slip into an emotional funk because your former spouse didn’t acknowledge your birthday. Unless you have children, you will probably never hear from your former spouse again Continue Reading →

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Although the credit bureaus do not consider divorce one of the many factors that contribute to an individual’s creditworthiness, expecting to come through a divorce with your credit unscathed simply isn’t realistic. Your individual financial behavior, the types of debt you and your spouse carry and the amount of joint debt you both owe affects your credit scores long after the divorce is final.

Closing Joint Accounts

It isn’t uncommon for married couples to hold joint accounts. One of the first financial decisions most divorcing couples must make is whether or not to close their joint accounts. While closing a joint bank account doesn’t have a clear credit impact, closing a joint credit card often damages both individuals’ credit scores.

Your credit utilization ratio–the percentage of debt you carry on a credit card as measured against that card’s credit limit–has a significant effect on your credit rating. When you close a joint credit card, you lose the available credit remaining on that card. This increases your credit utilization ratio and, in turn, adversely affects both your credit scores and those of your spouse. Continue Reading →

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Financial factors are very crucial for you to review as you begin the divorce process. You are most likely aware that divorces can be expensive, but do you know how much yours will cost you?

You may be surprised to find out that the average cost of a divorce is about $15,500. However, the costs vary depending on dozens of different factors. A simple divorce can cost you as little as $3,000. While a complex divorce can cost $100,000 or more.

Below you will find some helpful information about the financial obstacles that you may face during your divorce. Continue Reading →

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Choosing an attorney for your divorce is a complicated decision, and one not to be made lightly. You want an attorney with impeccable credentials and a caring personality who isn’t afraid to deal with unpleasant issues. Until you meet with one of the best divorce lawyers in NJ for a free initial consultation, you won’t know if you’re making the right choice.

Why a consultation is Important

Not all attorneys offer a free initial consultation in office. They begin charging you from the first moment you meet However, you don’t want to select an attorney just based on research. Choosing a divorce lawyer is a personal decision. Just because Attorney A was great for your friend, it doesn’t mean he will be right for you. Personalities may not match or he may not offer you the solution you want.

When you sit down with Peter Van Aulen for a free initial consultation, he will listen to you tell the details of your case. He won’t make snap judgments or provide recommendations until he understands your situation. He doesn’t have a set method of dealing with divorce cases but provides legal counsel that is unique to each client. Peter Van Aulen understands that psychological and emotional circumstances play a part in each case and must be taken into account when creating a case.

A Passionate Defender

When an attorney offers a free initial consultation in office, he’s telling you he takes a strong interest in each case. He’s not just looking to add another win to his resume or to make more money. He is selective about his cases and only chooses those he feels will benefit from his knowledge. Peter Van Aulen will work with you to form a powerful strategy to meet your goals. He is confident in his ability to represent you, and he wants you to feel the same sense of trust in him. Continue Reading →

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If you’re at the point in your divorce where it’s time to make decisions and negotiate a settlement, you’ll need some pointers to help you reach your goals.  Here are some tips for negotiating the best result from your divorce.

Goal setting

Prior to a negotiation meeting, list your goals – a general overall goal, such as “do what’s best for my children,” “make sure I have a place to live,” and “ensure I can retire at a reasonable age,” as well as more specific goals on each issue, like “I want to pay less than $1,000 per month in spousal support” or “I want a 10/4 parenting time schedule.”  Your smaller goals are just guideposts and may move throughout the negotiation. Keep your big picture in mind and be flexible with your smaller, more specific goals.  This way of thinking helps you compromise on non-core issues and hold firm on matters central to your overall, primary goal.

Think long-term to avoid settler’s remorse

To illustrate this tip, let’s say you are a long-term stay-at-home mom and you want primary custody of your children. However, you know your husband won’t agree because he wants to pay as little as possible in child support. You want to propose that you’ll take less in child support if he will agree to your custody proposal. It may be tempting to give in on an issue in order to do what you think is best for your children. Before you give in too quickly, hold out a bit, stand firm, or fight back. Generally, given the circumstances above, you should receive primary custody and child support. Keep in mind that child support is financial support for your children and they need that, too, as much, if not more than time with you. Concede on points that don’t matter to the big picture and dig in on issues that have a big impact on your long-term goals. Continue Reading →

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New Jersey has no action for separation for married couples. Instead, there is an action for “divorce from bed and board” which does everything a divorce action does, but leaves the parties married. These actions are based on exactly the same grounds as those for absolute divorce. If both parties are not in agreement to obtain a judgment of this type, it cannot happen. Also, either party may seek to convert these judgments to a judgment for absolute divorce at a later date.

Separation Agreement versus Divorce from Bed and Board

 A separation agreement allows the parties to control how all assets and debts are shared, to determine custodial arrangements as well as child support and alimony decisions. In an action for divorce from bed and board, a judge makes those decisions.

A separation agreement, quite simply is not a court order and can be enforced under contract law only. A judgment of the court can be enforced as a court order. Continue Reading →

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New Jersey has a set of statutes on the specific requirements of NJ prenuptial and pre-civil union agreements and enforcement of them, referred to as the Uniform Pre-Marital and Pre-Civil Union Act. The details begin at N.J.S.A. 37.2-31 and continuing thereafter.

The Purpose: Protection

Prenuptial and pre-civil union agreements set the rights and obligations of each party to the partnership, and each other, with regard to both existing and future property ownership, financial obligations and the overall financial relationship between the parties. These Agreements create a relationship that can waive existing rights and add additional rights. For example, the rights of a spouse to a portion of the estate of their deceased spouse can be waived in these Agreements with other arrangements being made instead. This is often important when there are multiple marriages and children to be protected from prior relationships.

What Will Make A NJ Prenuptial Agreement Fail

In consideration of having a prenuptial agreement drafted, it is beneficial to know what action or inaction can make it fail. The Act itself includes not just the requirements, but what it takes to set aside or have the Agreement declared unenforceable, their case will be based on any or all of the following failures: Continue Reading →

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Although New Jersey became a “no-fault” state in 2007, no-fault divorce was an addition to grounds based divorces, not an elimination grounds. There is now a choice whether to seek divorce on a no-fault or fault based grounds.

A fault based divorce gives no advantage on determinations of property division, child support or alimony.  As to child custody, unless the fault claims negatively impact the children, fault grounds provide no benefit in custody determinations, either.

No-Fault Divorce: Irreconcilable Differences

In New Jersey, the reference to “no-fault” divorce means that there are irreconcilable differences between the parties resulting in a breakdown of the marriage for at least six months. The parties need not be separated for any period of time whatsoever. Continue Reading →

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When your divorce is the result of a cheating spouse, it can often be difficult to accept. Too often, the faithful party accepts the blame and responsibility for their spouse’s infidelity. It’s important to recognize that cheating is a choice your spouse made. It was not your idea. You will ask yourself lots questions after your divorce. Why did he or she cheat? Does he or she feel bad about what they did? When is this terrible feeling going to end? Although most people ask these kinds of questions, they are not helpful to the healing process.

How to Begin the Healing Process

You want your life back, but accomplishing this takes some determined effort. You must accept that you are divorced, on your own, and responsible for your happiness. Take control of everyday responsibilities. If you have children, be sure they know they are safe and secure even though their time is shared between parents. Take a few small steps each day toward creating the new life you envision. Trying to win back a spouse is an emotionally unhealthy activity. Never use your children to try and make the ex-spouse feel guilty. If you have no children, there is absolutely no reason to have any association with your former spouse. It’s time to concentrate on building a life that is satisfying and rewarding.

Taking Control of Your Life

Some professionals say it can take six months to a year of recovery for each five years of marriage. Your divorce issues will not disappear overnight, but you can take control of your life immediately. One part of taking control includes allowing yourself time to grieve when anniversary, birthday, and other holiday celebrations arrive. You must get through them before you can move forward. There is no weakness involved in mourning a loss. It is healthier than getting up each day angry and spiteful. The first year of your divorce is a journey, and only you can decide what direction it will take. Your future is in your hands, don’t give it back to someone who has already moved on. Continue Reading →

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