MEETING OPTIONS DURING THE CORONAVIRUS: The Law Offices of Peter Van Aulen understands your concerns regarding the spread of the Coronavirus, and now offers different meeting options to our clients and those seeking legal representation. All meetings, including initial consultations, can be handled either through the phone, FaceTime, Zoom, or in person.

| by

Over half of the adult population in the United States has been through at least one divorce. Many divorced individuals move on and remarry and find themselves in a more successful relationship, but some people get divorced and lose confidence in their ability to have a happy healthy relationship. If you are someone that is ready to build a happy and lasting relationship, there are a few factors you can take into consideration to lower your odds of divorce. Here are the top five causes of divorce.

  1. You married for the wrong reasons.

It seems like common sense that getting married for status or money can lead to an unhappy union that ends up getting cut short by divorce. However, there are other reasons you should avoid saying “I do”, many couples marry due to unplanned pregnancy or to cope with their own feelings of loneliness. One way to avoid this pitfall is by truly examining your motives for marriage before you set the date, determine if you truly love the person you are with or if you are simply afraid of being by yourself.

  1. You lose your individuality.

Compromise is a healthy part of every relationship. Every couple should expect to make sacrifices occasionally to build a strong and happy marriage. Unfortunately, many couples make the mistake of hyper-focusing on their relationship to the point that they lose any sense of personal identity. This kind of co-dependency can lead to misunderstandings, arguments and hurt feelings. It is important that each person in a relationship maintains their own interests and provides their spouse with enough room to do the same. Continue Reading →

| by

There are so many factors involved in a divorce, it is wisest to have a “game plan” in place from the beginning. Though part of that is certainly hiring an experienced and competent attorney, there are things that you can, and will have to, do on your own to provide your attorney with everything they will need to best protect your interests.

Looking Ahead to Distribution of Assets

Because part of your divorce involves the distribution of assets, you need to put yourself in a position of knowing those assets, documenting them and obtaining as much of the relevant documentation that you can.

  • Financial Accounts: Begin making copies of all documents involving financial accounts such as all bank accounts, retirement accounts, investment accounts, trust agreements, stock records, stock options and life and other insurance policies. Copy statements, ledgers, anything that provides information as to deposits, withdrawals and activity on such accounts. These accounts will be divided, so you want the documents to show the value of these accounts.
  • Other Personal Property: This includes assets such as your cars, boats, trailers, cash, furniture and furnishings in your home or homes. It is a good idea to photograph the larger items and take a video around each room in your home(s).
  • Real Property: Make copies of deeds, tax bills, if income property copy leases, rent receipts, expense receipts, mortgage statements and any documents that support value of the property. Occasionally people have current appraisals. If that is the case, make a copy.
  • Debt: Make copies of any and all bills and loan documents such as auto loans, charge statements, medical bills, tuition statements, all with records of payment.

Continue Reading →

| by

Divorce that occurs later in life, sometimes referred to as “Grey Divorce” or “Mature Divorce” carries with it special considerations than those divorce cases that occur earlier in life. While child custody and support are often less of a concern; things like retirement accounts, social security, and health issues tend to become the focus of the divorce process when the parties are age 60 and over.

DIVISION OF ASSETS

Marital Home

Who keeps the house is one the biggest questions in most divorce cases, regardless of the age of the couple. Earlier in life it is often important because it is the most expensive asset and it is important to maintain a stable home for children. Later in life, however, it may not be the most expensive asset, and the children probably have moved out. Then why is the home still so important? There are several factors to consider.

Taxes

Owning a home comes with special tax treatment that can be very valuable to a senior. Real property taxes, mortgage payment deductions, and exclusions from the sale of the home are all factors you should talk to your attorney and tax professional about when determining whether to keep the marital home. Continue Reading →

| by

New Jersey law makes it clear that if you are the custodial parent of a child, you must either have permission of the other parent or a court order allowing you to move the child outside the state of New Jersey.

BAURES FACTORS

The New Jersey courts in the case of Baures v. Lewis gave us 12 factors to consider in determining whether the relocation will be permitted. It is important to note that the Baures factors are only guidelines. No single factor is dispositive to the case, not all factors need to be considered equally, and not all of the factors listed will be relevant in every case.

  • The reasons given for the move

The court will consider why the parent wants to move the child, whether for employment, financial, familial, or other reasons.

  • The reasons given for the opposition

The reasons why the other parent does not wish for the child to move. Is the reason spite, or is it because it will be hard to visit with the child? Will the transition be difficult for the child? The court will weigh the pros and cons of the move. Continue Reading →

| by

What is considered domestic violence?

New Jersey defines domestic violence as the commission one of a particular set of criminal offenses committed by an adult or emancipated minor against a person who falls within the state’s definition of a domestic violence victim. For more information see our article on Domestic Violence in NJ (<- link here https://www.pvalaw.com/domestic-violence.html)

What is a restraining order?

A restraining order prohibits contact between the person who seeks the restraining order and the person who the restraining order is entered against.

What effect does a restraining order have?

A restraining order is most commonly used to prohibit the person it is entered against away from the person who sought the restraining order. It may also contain other prohibitions, based on the violence alleged by the victim. Those can include prohibiting any contact including phone calls and texts, the surrender of the defendant’s firearms, ordering counseling, and others as appropriate. Continue Reading →

| by

An annulment is a legal process that severs a marital relationship by voiding it. An annulment is different from a divorce in that a divorce ends a marriage, whereas an annulment deems that the marriage never happened. While New Jersey allows for a no-fault divorce, annulment requires the marriage to meet certain criteria in order to qualify for an annulment.

GROUNDS FOR ANNULMENT

The reasons for obtaining an annulment are very limited, and as such most married couples do not qualify for an annulment and must use divorce to end the marriage. This is because annulments are only granted in cases in which the marriage should not have been valid in the first place. The following are considered grounds for annulment in the State of New Jersey:

  • either spouse was under age at the time of the marriage, and once attaining age 18 have not had sexual relations
  • incapacity by mental illness or intoxication
  • fraud, or lies, by you or your spouse
  • duress
  • incurable impotence at the time of the marriage
  • incest
  • bigamy

A common misconception of annulment is that it is an available option in marriages that only last a short time. A marriage that lasts only a matter of months but does meet one of the grounds above will not qualify for an annulment. Continue Reading →

| by

How to Get Along During a Divorce

 Animosity between parents going through a divorce can be emotionally damaging to a child. For this reason, it is critical for parents not to show their frustration toward each other in front of the children. Here are three ways to ensure that you and your former partner can remain civil while going through a divorce.

Deal with Your Emotions First

With all the paperwork that needs your attention, and your need to adjust to your new life, the last thing you want to dwell on are your emotions. Unfortunately, negative emotions are a part of divorce, and bottling them up can lead to anger and resentment. Deal with your feelings first, even if this means seeking professional counseling. The more consistently you address your emotional health, the less animosity there will be between you and your former partner.

Think Before You Act

I was once told by a colleagues that criminal lawyers often represent bad people acting their best in a criminal case and divorce lawyers often represent good people acting their worst during a divorce. Do not go down this path. Acting poorly towards your spouse and involving your children can hurt own case and damage your children. Therefore, think before you act. Your actions can have a short and long term affect on your life and the lives of your children. Continue Reading →

| by

Lawyers aren’t one-size-fits-all. They don’t all excel at the same things, so asking a bankruptcy attorney to handle your divorce is a little like asking a plumber to rewire your house. If your marriage is headed for the brink and you feel that you’re going to need the help of an attorney, giving some thought to the interview process before you meet with him for the first time can benefit both of you. You’re entrusting him with your family and finances – things that are really important to you — so you’ll want the right fit.

When you meet with prospective attorneys, you won’t be the only one who has questions.Let the lawyer ask questions first. He won’t know if and how he can help you until he understands the intimate details of your problem — your finances, your family and your marriage. He’ll be able to give you more accurate answers to your own questions when he understands the finer points of what you’re facing.

Find out how his office operates so you’ll know what to expect if you hire him. He’s ethically obligated to act in your best interests, but this doesn’t mean he’ll be able to return every one of your phone calls within five minutes. In fact, you probably won’t want him to. If he has that kind of free time on his hands, he may not be busy with a thriving practice. If you retain him, you’re bound to call at a time when he’s with another client, in court or prepping for trial, so he can’t drop everything to get on the phone with you.  Ask how his office handles these situations. Divorce litigation is rife with unexpected emergencies, but what seems like an emergency to you is often something his staff has handled numerous times before. Continue Reading →

| by

A major consideration in determinations of child support obligations is the time with each parent in a true joint custody arrangement. When one considers this situation, there are obligations to both parents for the children that would not be shared expenses but for the equal time arrangement, so the court makes an effort to compensate for those expenses by varying from the standard child support guidelines.

New Jersey child support includes various types of expenses for the child, including fixed expenses such as housing, utilities and other expenses incurred whether or not the children is present; variable expenses such as the costs while the child is each parents’ care such as food and transportation; and controlled expenses such as clothing, personal hygiene items, entertainment and various other expenses while the child is in a parent’s care. Controlled expenses are those that can be challenged as the expenses required in the household of each parent. If a parent is ordered to pay full guidelines child support in a situation where the child is with them fifty percent of the time, they would be paying these controlled expenses twice, once in their own home, and again when the child was with the other parent. Obviously, one parent paying for the same expenses twice is unfair and unreasonable.

The child support guidelines set controlled expenses to be 25% of the entire child support obligations. There is a case, Wunsch-Deffler v. Deffler, that found, in a 50/50 sharing of the parents’ time with the child or children, this 25% controlled expense amount should not be included in the payor’s child support obligation. Wunsch-Deffler v. Deffler, 406 N.J. Super. 505 (Ch.Div. 2009). Therefore, pursuant to this court, the guidelines child support amount for the payor should be reduced by 25%. Continue Reading →

| by

When a Grandparent Visitation case arises it is often following a significant family crisis, such as a divorce, change in child custody, argument between parent and child, or a death in the family. No matter what the cause is, often one or both parents decides that it is not a good idea for the grandparent to spend time with his or her grandchild. This lack of visitation may be difficult for all of the parties involved in the family dispute, which is when the courts become involved. As is the case with most legal issues, if the parties can come to a visitation agreement on their own, the process is much simpler. However, in some cases strained relationships between the child’s parents and the grandparent can make it impossible for the parties to come to their own agreement. In those cases, the New Jersey law may allow the grandparent the ability to obtain a court order allowing them time to visit with their grandchild.

VISITATION RIGHTS FOR GRANDPARENTS 

Overview Of N.J.S.A. 9:2-7.1

New Jersey Law codifies the rights of a grandparent to child visitation in N.J.S.A. 9:2-7.1, titled “Visitation Rights for Grandparents, Siblings.” The grandparent may apply to the New Jersey Court for visitation with a grandchild if he or she can show that it is in the “best interest of the child” to do so. The law outlines eight factors that the court will take into account in determining whether to award grandparent visitation. The statute also makes it clear that if the grandparent was ever the primary caretaker of the grandchild, it will assume that it is in the best interest of the child to have visitation with the grandparent. Continue Reading →

Member Of
Super Lawyers Martindale-Hubbell New Jersey Supreme Court Certified Attorney

Peter Van Aulen was selected to the 2016 and 2017 Super Lawyers list. The Super Lawyers list is issued by Thomson Reuters. A description of the selection methodology can be found here. No aspect of this advertisement has been approved by the Supreme Court of New Jersey.

Peter Van Aulen has received a rating by Martindale Hubbell. A description of the rating methodology can be found here. No aspect of this advertisement has been approved by the Supreme Court of New Jersey.

Peter Van Aulen is certified by the New Jersey Supreme Court as a Matrimonial Attorney.

Contact Information
Office Location
50 Market St
Saddle Brook, NJ 07663
Phone: 201-845-7400

The information contained in this Website is provided for informational purposes only, and should not be construed as legal advice on any subject matter

This site is protected by reCAPTCHA and the Google Privacy Policy and Terms of Service apply.

Please do not include any confidential or sensitive information in a contact form, text message, or voicemail. The contact form sends information by non-encrypted email, which is not secure. Submitting a contact form, sending a text message, making a phone call, or leaving a voicemail does not create an attorney-client relationship.

Copyright © 2025, The Law Offices of Peter Van Aulen
JUSTIA Law Firm Blog Design